How To Win Her Heart Back
85Your girl has just broken up with you, but you are still in love with her. You try to reason with her, you beg her to come back, you even go to extremes and threaten to hurt yourself if she doesn't return; she still doesn't come back. First, you have to sit down and ask yourself why did she leave in the first place. Sure, when she called it quits, she told you "it's not you, it's me." The number one thing to know is that it is almost ALWAYS your fault and she only tells you it is not just to keep from causing you further pain. Your previous attempts at trying to win her back have failed miserably and now you're wondering what are you doing wrong. The number one mistake most men make when trying to win their ex back is they beg. All this does is push her further away. A woman hates a weak man and begging is a sign of weakness. Another huge mistake men tend to make is that they continue to talk to her, hoping to somehow convince her that he is all the man she needs. If you were all the man she needed then she wouldn't have left you in the first place. What you have to do is understand that you've changed from when you and her first started dating. What she saw in you in the beginning, obviously she doesn't see in you now. If she left you, most likely you know why. So now you have to somehow make her see why she fell in love with you in the first place. First things first, cut off all communication.
If you continue to communicate with her, she will never get the chance to miss you. If she doesn't miss you she won't come back. Stop texting her, stop calling her, stop all communication. Let her miss the good times she shared with you (assuming there were good times). Do not talk to her friends about her. Don't even check up on her. Let her believe you're doing just fine without her and you can live without her. So now you're left with the question, what if she gets another boyfriend?
Well, if she does happen to start talking to another guy and ultimately start dating him, it doesn't mean it's over for you. As much as it will hurt you to see her with another guy, you have to be strong and continue doing what you've been doing. Who knows, maybe the guy turns out to be a complete jerk, which would be great news for you because she will then realize how much she loves you and misses you. Maybe the guy is prince charming. Still, you shouldn't worry too much. Often times, the guy that comes after you is a rebound. Yes, she may seem to really love the guy but, what she really likes is the wonderful change. The change from the way you were. But more often than not, this "love" turns out to be infatuation and in a few months she will realize that. This doesn't mean she will return to you but this does open up the door for you. Now you have to somehow show her that you're a completely different person than you were when you two were together. Show her that you're the person that she fell in love with. This is easier said than done. The one thing you can't do is tell her you've changed. Maybe this isn't the first break-up and she has taken you back before, only to realize a few months later why she broke up with you in the first place. So, telling her you've changed isn't going to work. She won't believe you. If this isn't your first time breaking up then it just makes it that much harder to win her back, maybe seemingly impossible. But, there is always hope. Like I previously mentioned, let her see that you've changed. For this to work you have to be back in her life, as a friend only. As her friend, do the things you wouldn't do when you two were together (obviously only the things you're allowed to do as a friend). Show her the side of you you know she loves, but find a way to show her without giving the impression that you're still in love with her. Make her fall in love with you all over again.
But this isn't the hard part. Assuming all of this works to perfection, now you have to actually keep her by your side. So you can't just show that you've changed; you have to actually have changed. If you haven't then you will only lose her again and maybe for good. That is why I would advise you to actually work on changing before you try my advice. If you feel you have changed then take my advice. Hopefully, in just a few months, you would have your love back again. Do me a favor and keep her this time, before you regret it.
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is this reli going to work?
maybe it will work or ends as your girlfriend will simply forget about your existence. but well, what do you have to lose?
u never know whats gonna happen
It does work! i was with someone for 3 years and we broke up for 161 days and i got her back. then i lost her again for the same reasons 8 months later. I stopped talking and texting and a week later she calls wanting to see me. The difference is I have changed this time and she can tell. I won't lose her again
this really going to work?4 sure?
IDK... I''m pissed right now and she's not trying to talk to me at all and it's killin me but if she's so shallow that she won't give me another chance for a simple mistake then I'm freakin through and i'm moving on and IDC anymore
Great advice!! Really works
Trust me... if your relationship was really based off of love instead of lust this will work, pretty much once a girl truly falls in love with a guy that love with always be there... if you lose her you always have that chance to bring the love out again.... just be patient i have done this before and it works and im going through it again...so keep your head up guys.... i have been with this same girl for over 7 years and i know almost ever trick to keeping a girl and this one is my top favorite....
It's starting to work for me. We broke up and came back together once before. We married, had a child, and separated again two years later. After three months the communication is back and o am showing her the change. You have to be patient. Of you tell her you've changed she won't believe it, you have to subtlety show her. It takes time, if you love her time is all you have
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Wow, this is really chauvinistic. Let's look at this in a more unbiased light. It takes two to make a relationship, correct? It takes two to have an argument, correct? It takes two to compromise, correct? Yes to all questions - obviously.
So, think about your situation and ask yourself : is my partner willing to compromise on issues? Is my partner willing to talk about problems? Am I willing to talk about problems he or she brings to light?
If your partner doesn't like to talk about relationship problems, doesn't want to compromise, or you don't like to do either then your partner or yourself is not ready for a relationship. Remember: it takes two, not just you.
Very helpful advice you've given us here. Thanks for creating this hub and sharing your advice. Your advice is very similar to this great site I found the other day which contains dozens of articles on this subject: http://www.getbackwithyourextips.com
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My boyfriend broke up with me last week after two years relationship. We both are in high-school. He told me he no longer in love with me like the way he use to and just wanted us to be friends. I accepted his friendship in order to try and get him back i cried and pleaded for him to give me if i have done anything wrong but he refused. The day after he break up with me I told him that i will never give up on this one. So my friend told me about a temple called obolospelltemple@gmail.com this temple helped me to get him back to me and now we are together. All thanks to obolospelltemple@gmail.com i am Jenny
Well I've been with my lady for 12 yrs and when been threw alot I'm trying it now I hope that it works and doesn't open a door to a greener place. We been married for 5 of them I pushed and pushed then she got the itch and I kept pushing now hopefully this input works cause she is a really great women. It's even harder cause I work out of town and we have 2 littles ones that we love so much and have fun together with also but kids do play a big factor. All I can say is what u got to loose it's already gone so it has to be a win win situation.
we broke up. but after we broke up, we still see each other and act like what we were couples. But it's an up down up down scenario. It hurts me a lot when she told me she doesn't want to see me anymore :(
i contacted wiseindividualspell@gmail.com regarding Return My Lover Love Spell last 3days, now my ex is back to me. I just wanted to drop this message to every body that i was very pleased with the results. "
me and my exs Girlfriend have broken up 3 diffrent times we have been to gether almost 4 years but in them 4 years we have broken up befor we have alil boy together that is going to be 7 months on the 26 we still talk I love her and i no wat i did was wrong in meany ways she still says we love you to we have hung out and have had sexs befor in the last 2 months that we havent been together wat should I do I miss her and our son and just dont wat to hurt her anymore because i relize alot of the things i did but when i tell her i dont want to hurt her she dont belive me because i have said it alot so someone plz help me get her and our son back together
My Name is JEREMY.I will love to share my testimony to all the people in the forum cos i never thought i will have my girlfriend back and she means so much to me..The girl i want to get marry to left me 4 weeks to our weeding for another man..,When i called her she never picked my calls,She deleted me on her facebook and she changed her facebook status from married to Single...when i went to her to her place of work she told her boss she never want to see me..i lost my job as a result of this cos i cant get myself anymore,my life was upside down and everything did not go smooth with my life...I tried all i could do to have her back to all did not work out until i met a Man when i Travel to Africa to execute some business have been developing some years back..I told him my problem and all have passed through in getting her back and how i lost my job...he told me he gonna help me...i don't believe that in the first place.but he swore he will help me out and he told me the reason why my girlfriend left me and also told me some hidden secrets.i was amazed when i heard that from him..he said he will cast a spell for me and i will see the results in the next couple of days..then i travel back to US the following day and i called him when i got home and he said he's busy casting those spells and he has bought all the materials needed for the spells,he said am gonna see positive results in the next 2 days that is Thursday...My girlfriend called me at exactly 12:35pm on Thursday and apologies for all she had done ..she said,she never knew what she's doing and her sudden behavior was not intentional and she promised not to do that again.it was like am dreaming when i heard that from her and when we ended the call,i called the man and told him my wife called and he said i haven't seen anything yet... he said i will also get my job back in 3 days time..and when its Sunday,they called me at my place of work that i should resume working on Monday and they gonna compensate me for the time limit have spent at home without working..My life is back into shape,i have my girlfriend back and we are happily married now with kids and i have my job back too.This man is really powerful..if we have up to 20 people like him in the world,the world would have been a better place..he has also helped many of my friends to solve many problems and they are all happy now..Am posting this to the forum for anybody that is interested in meeting the man for help.you can mail him to GREATORACLETEMPLESOLUTION@LIVE.COM i cant give out his number cos he told me he don't want to be disturbed by many people across the world..he said his email is okay and he' will replied to any emails asap..hope he helped u out too..good luck greatoracletemplesolution@live.com
Hello To The World At Large,
I am Miss Santa Thomas,From united states of America.I will start by saying to all that have experience heart break and also cant do with out there lover should please stop here and read up my story, So as you will know how to go solving or getting your ex back from this spell caster..AND AGAIN I WILL WANT TO ALSO TELL ALL THAT THIS SPELL CASTER I WILL WANT TO TELL THE WHOLE WORLD ABOUT IS HARMLESS AND DO NOT HAVE ANY SIDE EFFECT, BUT TO RESTORE AND GIVE YOU BACK WHAT YOU DESERVE, COS WHEN I MEET WITH THIS SPELL CASTER THAT WAS INTRODUCED TO ME BY THE WIFE OF MY BOSS IN MY WORKING PLACE, HE MADE IT CLEAR THAT HE CAN CAST SPELL ON SO MANY OTHER PROBLEMS EXCEPT IN GETTING YOUR EX OR MAKING YOUR LOVER TO LOVE YOU MORE THAT WILL SUITE YOU. Last year December, My lover was cheating on me and was not also give me the attention that a man should give to a woman,And really that was troubling my mind and tearing my heart apart to the extent that i was not concentrating in the office the way i use to before the break up by my lover.And before that incident,I always see how my boss use to love his wife so much. I was binging to think that i was not doing the right thing to him that will make him love me forever,So i really gathered my courage and went to my boss wife office to ask her the secret that made her husband love her so dearly,In the first place she refused in telling me,She asked me why i am asking her such a question,That if is it not normal for every man to love his wife.I told her the reason that made me ask her about this question,That my lover started cheating on me lately,When i knelt down before her for her to see my seriousness in this issue that i went to ask her,She opened up to me by telling me that i should not tell anybody about what she want to tell me,The wife to my boss started to say to me that she used a very powerful spell on his husband to love her,And the spell that she used is harmless, But the spell is just to make him love her and never to look for any other woman except her. I QUICKLY ASK HER HOW DID SHE GET TO KNOW THIS GREAT,POWER,DURABLE AND PERFECT WORK SPELL CASTER,she said that a friend of hers also introduce her to him. Then i also ask her how i can meet with this spell caster.SHE SAID EVERYTHING TO ME,THAT THE NAME OF THIS SPELL CASTER IS LAMA LAMA ORACLE TEMPLE.My next question to her was how can i get this wonderful spell caster,She said she is going to give me the email of the spell caster for me to contact him for my problem,Really she gave to me this spell caster email and i contacted him and explained all to him,And after every thing that needed to be done by the spell caster, In the next two days, My lover that hated me so much came to house begging for forgiveness and i was so glad that i have finally gotten my heart desire..I was so grateful to this spell caster for what he has done for my life.. So i made a promise to him that i will always continue telling the world about his wonderful work towards me and also to other that came to you before and also the people that will also get to you from my story that i narrated online now..I will want to say to the entire world that you should not cry over noting again, That there is a great man that has been helping individuals to restore there Joy and smile in there faces !! The direct email to get this man is : lamalamaoracletemple@live.com ,This is what i want to tell you all out there,That is thinking that all hope is lost ok..Thanks
Regards,
Miss Santa Thomas..
I hope it works,because ive just fought my feelings after seeing her,i wanted to tell her how much i love her,but didnt,instead told her im understanding about why she has broken up with me,im pining for her like mad,i know she is the one! Please god let this work!
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